Psychic Peeping Toms
“… there’s one point of your ethics I find brilliant and also follow it: “I will not do a reading to see what someone other than my client is doing or feeling.” …
When people ask me for a reading and I tell them that I will not read regarding another person’s feelings or actions, they either suddenly seem less interested in the reading, or don’t seem to take me so serious anymore… How [do] you think we can let our readers know our ethic code without make them think that we are doing that because we lack the ability.”
Thanks for this question, Marina.
Yes, I don’t want to be put into the position of being a psychic “Peeping Tom.” As I state in my book Tarot Tells the Tale –
Some Tarot readers feel that if we want to be helpful to a querent, we sometimes have to read for questions like, “Is my husband cheating on me?” While it is tempting to agree with that position, we have to consider where to draw the line with questions that seek to examine the thoughts or actions of anyone not present for the reading.
Here are a few suggestions of ways you can deal with people who ask you to do a reading to peek into the life of someone else:
1. You might say to that person, “How would you like it if someone asked me to do that to you, to do a reading to see what you are thinking, feeling, or doing?”
2. You might explain to them that being able to read the cards is a gift from the Divine (however you want to phrase that). If we abuse that gift by this sort of unethical conduct, I think we’ll be in danger of losing that gift.
3. Depending on the circumstances, I may include a spread position with a definition something like this: “What do you need to know about your boyfriend?” However, with this type of phrasing, I am leaving it up to a higher source to bring to the reading whatever answers may be fair for us to know.
Finally, consider this: If someone asks you to do a “Peeping Tom” reading, and then they become uninterested in getting a reading from you because you refuse to do so, perhaps they are doing you a favor. Do you really want to do a reading for someone who not only doesn’t respect the privacy of others, but also won’t respect your boundaries? Perhaps you’re better off not wasting your time and tainting your energy by doing a reading for this person.