Ask KnightHawk — A Chaotic Move
My partner and I are looking at a move from the UK to Finland. (He’s Finnish). It’s something we both want to do very much, but I sometimes wonder if it will ever happen. Trying to organize the logistics of such a huge move is a bit of a car crash. It all feels so complicated, and I sometimes wonder if it’s the right thing to do or should I just give up? I’m looking for advice as to how I can get past the obvious complications and be able to think more clearly about it.
Dear Moving Chaotically,
Thank you for asking for a reading at this trying time of your life. Here are the cards I dealt for you:
Card 1 (Major Arcana Card for Spiritual advice) – The Tower
Card 2 (Court Card for traits to develop or emphasize) – Queen of Cups
Card 3 (PIP card for suggested action) – Five of Wands
Yes, it’s obvious that there is a lot of chaos going on in this situation (see the first and third cards!), but in the middle of that we see the calm and composed Queen of Cups. Considering these three cards together as a single tableau, I see the following general message:
In the midst of all the chaos, try to maintain your emotional stability. If you can view these upsets and challenges with a sense of calm equanimity, and if you can ignore or avoid any ensuing arguments (which, in the end, are fleeting and trivial), then you’ll be okay and make it through all this.
I also want to give you a quote from the section on the Tower card in my book-in-progress, Tarot and Your Spiritual Path, because of a couple of interesting coincidences. For one thing, both you and this quote use a car crash as a metaphor, which is what reminded me of it. Also, this quote talks about “a quarrel with a loved one,” which the Five of Wands in your reading may indicate, and it mentions love and compassion, which the Queen of Cups represents.
Here is the quote:
Consider that when a crisis such as a car accident strikes, the petty concerns of our lives suddenly shrink in importance. A quarrel with a loved one, for example, will fade into insignificance compared to the truly big concerns in life, such as love and understanding, compassion and generosity.
I think this quote encapsulates the advice you need about how you can “get past the obvious complications and be able to think more clearly about it.”
Next, here is a discussion of the individual cards in this reading.
The Tower card suggests that the turmoil of this life-altering situation is a powerful learning experience for you. It certainly is shaking up your world and forcing you out of your comfort zone, and this can help you gain a new perspective of your life and your relationships. You can use this chaos as an impetus to reexamine what you believe to be important in your life: material things vs. love and relationships. Of course, the extent to which this crisis supports your spiritual development depends upon your willingness to learn from it.
Queen of Cups:
This queen has a deeply contemplative and reflective quality, and so an important message of this card is this advice: In the midst of all this confusion, keep still your heart. So Queen of Cups asks if there is a way for you to find a place of calm when you need it. For example, do you meditate? Do you have a place of religious or spiritual refuge?
Also, this queen is loving, caring, and compassionate, and she represents your ability to understand your emotions and to be in touch with them – for the sake of your partner as well as yourself. With that in mind, it sounds like this is one of those times when your empathy and emotional support are integral to dealing with the problems at hand.
Five of Wands:
The prevailing sense of this card is one of chaotic energy. So the challenge here is to find a way to focus that energy in a creative way, to direct the energy of this chaos toward a constructive result. Also, a bit of advice here is to choose your battles with care. Another is to seek common ground and shared goals with others whenever conflicts do arise so that you can channel your conflicting energies in creative and productive ways.
To help you further in this situation, I would like to leave you with the following affirmations, which are adapted from my book, Tarot Affirmations. (You can read more about using affirmations with Tarot cards in a recent blog post.) Feel free, of course, to pick and choose among them and to adjust them to suit yourself.
Here are a couple of affirmations based on the Tower card:
I realize that this crisis is a good thing since it opens up wonderful new possibilities in my life.
I am looking to my heart for a new direction in my life, and I am finding sage advice there.
The next two work well with the Queen of Cups:
My ability to love myself gets me through hard times.
I gain valuable support from my caring, loving relationships.
The final two affirmations are related to the Five of Wands:
I am able to resist being dragged down by negativity.
I am bringing order to this chaotic situation so that its energy will be productive.
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