Tarot and relationships — Part 3: Spreads to show you how to solve your relationship issues
Last week, in my second post dedicated to Tarot and Relationships, I presented a technique for healing troublesome relationships using the Tarot and affirmations. This week, I’m going to present a couple of spreads you can use to do readings that will show you how to solve your relationship issues.
First up is a powerful Five-card Relationship Spread. In my book, Tarot Spreads: Get the Whole Story, I explain this Spread, and I present a couple of sample readings with it. Here is a brief overview.
5-Card Relationship Spread
This basic spread layout can be used for both finding and healing a relationship, but the positional interpretations differ depending on which goal you are shooting for.
Here are the positional definitions for finding a relationship that is positive and supportive:
What patterns of resistance keep coming up in your relationships? For example, how do you try to control other people? What games do you play in your relationships? Etc.
What do you fear about having a relationship?
How do you block love in your life?
What do you need to let go of to find love and romance?
How can you heal your relationship with yourself?
(Remember: Problems with in your love life help you see problems within yourself. When you fix those internal problems, you inevitably improve your ability to find and hold on to a positive relationship.)
Here are the positional definitions for improving or healing an existing relationship:
What patterns are causing problems in this relationship? For example, do you keep trying to control the other person? What games do you play over and over in this relationship? Etc.
What are your fears in this relationship?
How do you block love in this relationship?
What do you need to let go of to make this relationship work?
How can you heal this relationship?
Regardless of which way you want to use this spread (finding or healing a relationship), whenever you do a reading for relationship issues, try to use an open ended question.
Here are some samples you might want to use or adapt:
* What do I need to know about my relationship with __________?
* What do I need to know about my patterns of resistance to finding a positive relationship?
* What do I need to know to help me find and nurture a positive and supportive relationship in my life?
6-Card Relationship Tandem Spread
Here is a six card relationship spread that two people in a relationship can do together — in tandem, so to speak. The cards in the first row are for person A and the second row is for person B.
Person A deals three cards into the first row, then B deals three cards into the second row. Then each person takes turns discussing what they think their cards mean.
The positional definitions for reading these cards are below.
Remember: apply these three positional definitions to Person A for the cards in the top row and to Person B for the second row of cards:
1. How do I see myself in this relationship?
2. How do I view the relationship?
3. How do I see the other person in this relationship?
Using this “tandem” spread is a great way to open up a dialog about a relationship. Of course, both parties have to be open to doing this, and this really only works well when the problems in the relationship have not become so sour that an honest, respectful dialog is no longer possible. In fact, the best time to use this spread is before serious problems crop up — sort of like using it as preventative medicine.
Finally, I have posted a Seven-card relationship spread for readings that can show you how to improve your relationship, whether that means solving the problems in one or just making a good one better.