Tarot and Your Spiritual Path: Soul Mates
The following are excerpts from my work-in-progress book (Tarot and Your Spiritual Path). In one section of this book I do a series of spirituality readings where I pose a specific question for which I do a reading using a spread I specially tailored for that purpose. The material in this blog post is about Soul Mates.
When I chose the question, “What is a soul mate?” I knew it would present some interesting challenges since I know I view this concept differently than a lot of people. However, I respect the fact that many people have different opinions on this topic, so I thought this could prove to be an interesting reading. Of course, this reading may be seen as addressing this modification of the question instead: “What does the term ‘soul mate’ mean to me?”
And so I began this process by thinking about what does the term “soul mate” really mean? Is the term an idealization of a love relationship, more a theoretical concept than a concrete reality? Or do we all have one true “soul mate,” and we are locked into a destiny that includes a relationship with this person? An alternative point of view is that we don’t have one soul mate, but rather we have a “soul tribe,” which means that each of us belongs to a group of souls on a related spiritual journey. Or maybe “soul mate” doesn’t refer to someone we find but to something we create out of a loving relationship with another person. Also, do soul mate relationships have to be romantic ones, or can a family member or best friend be a soul mate?
The reading I did on this topic addresses most of these questions, but for now, here is just a portion of that reading.
One of the positional definitions in the spread I used for my examination of this question was: “What kinds of blessings or lessons can a soul mate bring into our lives?” and the card I drew was the Knight of Cups. Here is my interpretation.
An obvious interpretation of this card is that a soul mate can bring romance into our lives. However, there is more to this card’s message than just that.
The Knight of Cups says that a soul mate can help us in our search for answers to the questions on our hearts. This is not to say that s/he will give us the answers. Rather, the love we discover through our relationship with a soul mate bring us to new discoveries, or maybe just having someone to love may propel our search for them.
Also, a soul mate can travel with us into the unknown territory of the heart. And along the way, s/he will be there to give us a sense of peace and comfort when we find ourselves lost and bewildered so that we may continue until we finally do see the spiritual light of our personal relationships.
The main challenge that I see in this card is that of commitment. Truly, committed relationships bring many unique challenges into our lives. They bring up all sorts of issues that may otherwise remain submerged, including the challenge to keep that commitment, no matter what.
Of course, the obvious interpretation is to see this card as referring to our romantic relationships, but issues of commitment can arise in any close relationship—anything from best friends to parent / child relationships.
This card also says that a soul mate can also challenge us to move out of our “comfort zone”—to experience new things, to explore new vistas in life, and (most importantly) to become a better person.
There is a lot more to this reading, but I would like to leave it there for now. I would also like to hear what any of you have to say about this topic. What do you think of the concept of a “soul mate”? And how might you interpret these two cards?