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Judgment — Spiritual Message of the Day

June 30, 2013

I know I have talked before about how the Judgment card indicates the importance of forgiveness (for example, here and here), but I thought I would add a bit more today since the subject came up this morning in Rev. James Mellon’s message of the day at the Global Truth CenterIn thinking more about this topic after hearing James Mellon’s comments, I looked online and found the following quotes about forgiveness on a website called Wisdom Commons.  I want to share them with you in hopes that they will help you heal your wounds through the power of forgiveness.

As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison. — Nelson Mandela

True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” — Oprah Winfrey

It is your unwillingness to forgive that keeps you locked in your little self made world. — Rananda

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. — Paul Boese

I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him. — Booker T. Washington

While you wait impatiently for an apology which may never come, God is waiting patiently for you to forgive. — LaTonya Tarell

Holding on to resentment is like letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head. — Ann Landers

The balm of Forgiveness precedes all Healing. — John Fraysse

I have gotten some responses about this post that I want to address, so I want to add the following comments about forgiveness:

It never ceases to amaze me how much confusion and resistance there is to the idea of forgiveness.  I have found that this often arises from a conflation of the issues of forgiveness and justice, and the issues of forgiveness and evaluation / discernment.  These misunderstandings are so common as to be almost ubiquitous.

Forgiveness does not mean that we ignore issues of justice.  Justice is what we do on the outside; forgiveness is what we do on the inside.  And forgiveness also does not mean that we should not evaluate people’s ability to do things correctly.  Rather, it means we should not hold a grudge.  So we can certainly say, “I forgive you, but I will not let you hurt me again.  I forgive you, but I can no longer have you as a part of my life, at least not now.”

So how can we forgive?  Perhaps it will help to remember that “hurt people hurt people.”  We must realize that those who wrong us are acting both within and as a result of their own personal hell.  Even though we do not understand why someone acts badly—even though we may not know what burdens they bear and what deep wounds they suffer—there are always reasons and we never know the extent of them.  We typically think we do, but we do not.  When we realize that, we can forgive.

Ultimately, though, we need to know that forgiveness brings peace and freedom within ourselves. (Note especially the Nelson Mandela quote above. If he could forgive, surely we can.)  So we must forgive everything—yes, everything!—because any grudge we hold onto is a prison and it is poison.  It is a source of suffering.  It hurts us.  It corrodes our spirit.  Forgiveness, on the other hand, is the balm that heals our wounds. In fact, it is the balm that heals the world.

If you enjoy these words of spiritual advice from the cards, you will love my book — The Soul’s Journey: Finding Spiritual Messages in the Tarot.





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