What does the Ace of Cups mean?
Last year I posted a pithy meaning for the Ace of Cups —
Today, I would like to expand upon that, based on a sermon I heard at the Global Truth Center which talked about how we can come to love ourselves more.
First, consider this quote from Deepak Chopra, which Rev. James Mellon mentioned:
“Love is attention without judgment.”
This is as much a wonderful piece of advice about how to love as it is a definition of what love is. As such, it points toward a way for us to love ourselves. Rev. James went on to suggest a way to develop our self-love using something he calls the Three A’s, which I will list here, along with my own interpretations of what he said.
Attention – Pay attention to what you are doing, feeling, thinking, and saying. Everyone wants to be seen and heard sometimes, ourselves included. And who is always there to listen to you? You are … if you try to be. So pay attention to yourself, and do it with equanimity.
Acknowledge – Say to yourself, “Yes, that’s what’s going on. Yes, that’s who you are at this time.” Don’t judge it; just acknowledge it without being judgmental about it.
Note: These first two A’s can be called mindfulness or “living in the moment.”
Appreciate – Think of all the things you appreciate about yourself. Seriously, everyone has some good points, so if you’re having a hard time coming up with things to appreciate, then that means you could use some work on loving yourself more. To help you with that, here’s a suggested exercise:
Take out pen and paper and write a list of things that you appreciate about yourself. (Consider it a brainstorming exercise.) You then might consider posting that list somewhere so you can be reminded of it now and then. This is much like how parents put their kids’ artwork on their refrigerator. It’s a way of saying “You’re great. I appreciate you.”
Finally, I want to point out that the Three A’s are also helpful things to do in all your relationships. Consequently, if you want better relationships, practice active listening (the first two A’s) and saying things like “Thank you. You’re great at that. I really appreciate it.”