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The Queen of Swords suggests a way to live a happier life

April 7, 2019

RWS 2.0 Queen of SwordsThere are many ways to use Tarot cards beyond the well-known process of traditional readings. Here’s a way to create a happier, more fulfilled life today using messages and advice from the Queen of Swords.

Nietzsche said, “That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger,” but that statement seems more hopeful than inevitable. Hardship may present an opportunity to grow stronger and wiser, and indeed, motivational speakers like to say that every problem is an opportunity for growth, but we often don’t see things that way. It’s not easy to gain that perspective.

In my discussion about the Queen of Swords in my book, The Soul’s Journey, I note that we can gain wisdom from our experiences if we choose to, even when there is loss and sorrow involved. However, if we don’t approach unfortunate circumstances with the proper attitude, the grief and sadness that arise from them will make us bitter rather than better. So how can we handle adverse circumstances better?

In her book Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff lists three habits of exceptionally happy people, one of which is “Look for the Lesson and the Gift.” Shimoff says that the happiest people view their troubles differently than most of us. Instead of blaming, complaining, and bemoaning their fate, they ask themselves, What can I learn from this experience? What is the gift in it for me?

Becoming a happier person depends on cultivating this habit of viewing problems as learning experiences and seeing the silver lining in the darkest of clouds. We can take the first step toward gaining that habit by deciding to view and deal with just one particular bad experience differently. With that in mind, I came up with the following exercise designed to bring more happiness into your life:

Think of a painful experience, either a recent one or one from the past that still bothers you today. Consider how you view it. Do you resent someone for what happened? Do you blame any of your current problems on it? Or maybe it’s just a thorn in your side, something that comes to mind in a bothersome way now and then. Whatever the problem is, you can change how you deal with it and how you react to it.

Start by making a list of positive perspectives of this situation that will help you deal with it in a productive way. For example, is there something you can learn from it? Is there a hidden blessing in it—a silver lining in the gray cloud of this experience? This may not be easy to do since we are used to responding in anger and complaint. But keep trying and you will find at least one positive perspective, and then maybe more will come to you as well. Your new perspective will change your feelings about this experience so that it will become less of a cause of unhappiness. Perhaps it will even lead you to a bit of happiness.

Performing this exercise will begin to change you so that you will become better able to face any problems in a way that will make you stronger, wiser, and happier. And someday soon you will get to the point where you do actually see problems as opportunities.

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Many of these suggestions from the cards about how to live a happier, more fulfilled life were inspired by my pithy Tarot meanings and by material in my book, The Soul’s Journey. If you like them, you’ll love my books, Pithy Tarot and The Soul’s Journey. Also, for more Tarot messages, LIKE my Tarot Facebook page.
For a list of all my “Tarot and Happiness” posts see my article titled Find Happiness with Tarot Cards.






  1. Thank you for this unique perspective to deepen the message of the Queen of Swords. I think it’s important to note that all the court cards are multifaceted, just like people are. I’m going to go check out your book now 🙂

    • Thank you for your kind words, Nicola. I hope you like my book, whether you were referring to “Pithy Tarot” or “The Soul’s Journey” 😀

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